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1 Nov

Social Network: Friend or Foe?

Social Network: Friend or Foe?

Posted By: Jennifer Nova

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In light of the recent movie ‘ the social network’,  we wanted to take a look at how it has affected some part of everyone’s life?

Social Networks have quickly become a part of our lives whether people realize it or not.  Recently, “The Social Network” hit the big screen and provided viewers with a close up perspective of how these networks were created and the masterminds behind them.  The majority of people reading this article most likely have a connection to at least one social network (i.e. Twitter, Facebook or Bebo). We are all using these means to connect with old and new friends or to stay connected with where the hottest spot will be next Saturday night.  This leaves us with a lingering question, “is this right?”

Can you remember when beepers and street phones were always an efficient way to communicate before cell phones were thought of?  So why do we feel like half of us is missing when we lose our phones or our electronics are not functioning properly.  We are past the days of wondering what “BBM” stands for, or commenting on ones status updates.  House phones are an idea of the past and cell phones are slowly taking over just as Netflix and music downloads have blockbuster and CD sales becoming obsolete.

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There have been popular blogs and websites that count on today’s technology for their notoriety.  There have also been legal situations connected to these social networks resulting in suicides and other federal cases.  Users are more apt to spy on their significant other since so much personal information is available on these websites.  The whole “out of sight out of mind” way of thinking does not pertain anymore.  If you have an opportunity to see how or what an ex is doing you can do so, whenever you want through these social networks.  Having so much information readily available at your fingertips can making trying to get an ex out of your mind that much more difficult.  Seeing photos of them with their new girlfriend or boyfriend only heightens the heartache and recovery process.  I cannot help but wonder if the amount of social networking is a healthy lifestyle all the time.  Obsessive behavior can’t be healthy. Right?  While writing this article I thought of someone that one day deleted her facebook and twitter account.  When she had these accounts she was on them daily and pretty active so I couldn’t help but wonder, why?

Camille Friedman Lavergne is an art student in Philadelphia and is currently in Temple University, I asked Camille why she removed social networking out of her life and she replied, “I just didn’t think that everyday people should be involved in my life, and if you find a need to be involved you can always call my cell phone”.  I also asked her if she deleted all her accounts due to social networking affecting her life negatively and she responded, “I feel that social networks at a certain point created a false perception of a real support system.”  This made me think about how many true friends I have now and also how many I have not seen since high school.  The “friends” I have not spoken to in a year, and also how a large chunk of my facebook friends all come from being connected to a more personal smaller group of close friends and family.

My grandmother always said “a smaller amount of close friends is better than a bunch” and I believe that to be true throughout my life.  Therefore, I ask myself is social networking a healthy lifestyle.  For those that do not have businesses or are not involved in an industry that requires networking is it necessary to make these connections?

This makes me think of that great poem “A Reason a season or a lifetime” by an anonymous author.  This poem is as real as it gets and breaks down if someone is meant to be in your life for a reason, just a season, or a lifetime.  This poem portrays social relationships in a nutshell and also focuses on the fact that everyone you come in contact with may not be intended to be there forever.  Social networks, however, have not given us the opportunity to do so.  Keeping something a secret or personal is an option of the past once you put your information on a social network.  As long as you are active in these networks there is always a chance that an ex-lover, a friend, an enemy or even a possible employer will send you a request.

There has been popular blogs and websites that count on today’s technology for their notoriety.  There have also been legal situations connected to these social networks like suicides and other federal cases.  Users also build a tendency to check up on there ex or significant other witch definitely makes getting over someone way harder and killing a relationship way easier than before.  The whole “out of sight out of mind “ way of thinking doesn’t pertain much these day’s.  If you have an opportunity to see how or what an ex is doing you can do so, whenever you want through these social networks.  Which means it’s harder to get over heartbreak when your heart chips away each time you see that they are at the beach or an amusement park with their new partners.  You can’t help but wonder if the amount of social networking is a healthy lifestyle all the time.  Obsessive behavior can’t be healthy. Right?  While writing this article I thought of someone that one day deleted her facebook and twitter account.  When she had these accounts she was on them daily and pretty active so I couldn’t help but wonder, why?   Camille Friedman Lavergne is an art student in Philadelphia and is currently in Temple University, I asked Camille why she removed social networking out of her life and she replied, “I just didn’t think that everyday people should be involved in my life, and if you find a need to be involved you can always call my cell phone”.  I also asked her if she deleted all her accounts due to social networking affecting her life negatively and she responded, “I feel that social networks at a certain point created a false perception of a real support system.”  This made me think about how much friends I have now, how much I haven’t seen since high school, those “Friends” I haven’t spoke to in a year And how a chunk of my facebook friends all come from being connected to a more personal smaller group of close friends and family.   My grandmother always said “a smaller amount of close friends is better than a bunch” and I believe that to be true throughout my life, therefore I ask myself is social networking a healthy lifestyle, especially for those that don’t have businesses or aren’t involved in an industry that requires networking or making necessary connections? I can’t help but think of that great poem “A Reason A season or a lifetime” by an anonymous author.  This poem is as real as it gets and breaks down if someone’s meant to be in your life for a reason, just a season, or a lifetime.  This poem portrays social relationships In a nutshell and also focuses on the fact that everyone you come In contact with are not supposed to be there forever and that’s just the way of life.  Social networks however have not given us the opportunity to do so. Either you find them or they find you because you can if you want and so can they.  So as long as you are active in these networks there is always a chance that an ex-lover, a friend or even an enemy will send you a request.

Facebook and other social networks have been recently linked to anxiety and depression.  Sounds almost like a joke, but those students in middle school and college did not just commit suicide for no reason.   I am sure social sites such as Facebook, have affected personal lives more than it should.  People often write inappropriate comments not realizing your boss or potential employer is witnessing.

Tips For A Stress Free Social Networking Experience

1.      Take breaks From Social Networking or don’t use them at all if you don’t need to.

2.      If you know your boss or fellow business partners are looking, write positive or tastefully funny things.  This way it doesn’t matter if they are looking.

3.      Remember that the FBI and CIA can retrieve information from your account if you or someone you are involved with is under investigation.

4.      If you cant help but keep creeping on who your ex girlfriend/boyfriend is seeing and what they are up to, Tell a friend to lock access one day without you knowing This will not be healthy for you getting over them and it can cause more depression and anxiety.

5.      If you are trying to keep a professional profile only post tasteful pictures.

6.      If someone is harassing you or threatening you report them immediately.

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Food for thought: our social lives are now lived through technology. What happens when we step away from our computer devices?

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